15 ways to make him ask you out again

To me i feel You can never really tell if it's going all wrong without actually burning your hand.

On most first dates, the couple is a bundle of nerves. After all you are going to unravel a mystery and the truth can go both ways.

But if you've really liked the guy and want to make sure he asks you out again, on a second date, you can salvage the situation with some quick tips.

1. Be friendly: It isn't going to work if you keep staring at him all dreamy eyed.  In fact it’ll make him think you are a lunatic of some sort. So get a hold of yourself, girl, and talk your way out. But remember to keep it friendly and low key. Share your likes, dislikes and hobbies. These are conversation starters which will help him know you better.
2. Exchange contact details: If you really like him, don’t forget to share your number (if you haven’t done it yet). This is the first step to make sure he calls you back to go out again. A subtle hint of sorts. If that’s sorted then add him on social networking sites like Facebook, which will make sure he understands that you are interested.
3. Thank you message: After the date, don’t forget to thank him for a lovely time with a message and leave him a hint with “Hope to see you soon”. This will make your intentions clear. This is also a great way to keep the communication channels on and will give you a chance to start talking and know him better.
4. Let him pay: Offering to split the bill is a good gesture but if he insists, let him do so. Apart from being chivalrous, if he really likes you he will want to pay to see you again. You can add that you will make it even the next time around, making a second date mandatory.
5. Make plans: Do not wait for him to come with a plan and approach you. Instead you can suggest some fun options to get together.  Just make sure it’s at least two days after the date to not look desperate. Think of a movie you both would be interested in or comedy show that you are eager to watch.
6. Don’t be overconfident: While confidence is an attractive trait, over-confidence can be a big turn off. Make sure you play it safe with just the right amount of confidence.
7. Seduce not: First dates are to get to know the opposite person so come what may, do not try to seduce him. Keep it friendly and casual, even though in your head you are drooling over him. P.S: Avoid all sex talks even in texts or he is going to think you are too easy to get.
8. Keep it casual: Don’t show signs of desperation by constant texts and messages, post the date. This will put him off. Instead play it casual. Show interest but just enough to let him know that you only want to go out again if he wants to as well.
9. Keep the exes away: No matter how friendly you've become, the thumb rule is to always keep the exes for later. Don't avoid the topic completely, but make sure you do not switch to that and vent out all your feelings making it quite an awkward moment. So it’s best to keep your previous relationships under wraps.
10. Do not boss him: Keep your dominant side under wraps and try and be as compromising as possible. Make an effort to know his point of view and understand it too. He might figure it out later, but for a first date it can be intimidating.
11. Avoid arguments: If you really like the guy and want him to call you back, make sure you do not indulge in a verbal war. Sometimes people get so carried away with the things they love that a quarrel becomes inevitable. This, friends is a grave for your future relationship especially on a first date.
12. Be honest: Honesty truly is the best policy especially if your keen on getting in a relationship. So make sure you are honest. Just be yourself, enjoy the company and take every minute as it comes.
13. Avoid other distractions: Choose a place that’s free of sounds, surrounding chatter and loud music. These things can be every distracting and the effort involved in making a conversation will double up. Keep your phones aside too and don’t answer calls unless they are extremely necessary.
14. Keep the talks on: Out of sight is out of mind and even though you had a great time, if you do not keep conversing or staying in touch, there is a possibility that you can lose something special. So no matter how busy you are, do try and make some small talk to make sure he doesn't completely forget you.
15. Pay Attention: No matter how bored you are when he’s talking about cricket and stock market, make an effort to pay attention. This will make him realise that you really like him. It’s also a subtle hint for him to call you back

I am a Cop, and I am Sorry

None of us are perfect, but I think each of us can agree that until we accept the fact that we do not truly understand the point of view of the other person, we will never find a common ground to build on. One lesson I have learned from my wife is the value of a heartfelt apology. I used to believe that an apology was equal to admitting some kind of defeat. For a Marine and police officer, that is sometimes a difficult thing to do. During one of these arguments when I would refuse to apologize, she told me something that I have really grown to appreciate. She said, “an apology doesn’t always have to mean you did something wrong, it can simply mean that you are just sorry something has happened”.

As a cop I am truly sorry that people have been hurt and killed by the very people who have taken an oath to protect them. When one human kills another it is tragic. The purpose of this editorial is to not place blame, justify actions, or make claims on things I know little about. It is simply to tell all those, who mistrust law enforcement, that from someone who carries a badge, that I am sorry if you have every felt, intimidated, singled out, or mistreated because of the color of your skin, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, or a myriad of other things that make you different from me.

I am saddened to see the wedge that this issue has created. Media (social and traditional) is on fire with views that are more focused on dividing us then unifying us. They give the microphone to those who are the loudest instead of those who are the wisest. This has become a polarizing topic causing people to take sides. It seems at this point you either have to be pro-cop or anti-cop. If these are our only two options, then where will we be a year from now?

When people argue they clash. Every argument causes them to dig their heels deeper into the argument. Without some kind of intervention this can become highly emotional. So how do we navigate these troubled waters? I have found that until we find some kind of common ground (something we can all agree on) then we can’t move forward with finding a solution.
The same can be true for the current relationship between those who support law enforcement and those who mistrust it. Are there things we can all agree on?

None of us are perfect, but I think each of us can agree that until we accept the fact that we do not truly understand the point of view of the other person, we will never find a common ground to build on. If you hate cops then have coffee with one or go on a ride-along. If you are a cop frustrated with all the cop bashing lately, then attend a town hall meeting and listen to the frustration of the people within your community. This might not be the end all solution, but it is a start.
words from Daniel Cortes, PhD

Signs You're Dealing with a Groomzilla

 

 In this world we are living  wedding planning there is a new beast 

making its way onto the scene. Its origins is just from the species known as the "bridezilla" and then this creature usually boasts more body hair, and fewer pairs of shoes. And the last time i checked , It's known to wildly screech phrases such as "cigar bar" and "groom's cake," and usually possesses a multitude of unfounded, passionate opinions. That's right, and it brings us to the word  Groomzilla.

Have you encountered one of these fascinating mammals? Are you perhaps engaged to one? Here are some telltale signs that yes, that man is in fact a Groomzilla.
1. He Won't Budge
This man wants basketball-themed centerpieces and he won't compromise. He understands that they completely clash with the established color scheme, but he doesn't care because it's the NBA finals.
2. He Offers Retroactive Opinions
The groomzilla is a unique breed in that he is likely to present no hint of opinions throughout the decision making process or planning process , yet he develops very passionate feelings about wedding elements when they're past the point of alteration. Frustration ensues for all parties.
3. He Pouts Over His Lack of Groom Showers
You may hear a Groomzilla mumble something to the effect of, "You get to open so many gifts, eeemmmm Men need underwear and cooking-ware too." not funny though !
4. He Demands Groom-Centric Activities
Despite the fact that the entire wedding is focused on the bride and groom, the Groomzilla will demand even more, man-dedicated attention in the form of cigar bars, groom's cakes, and whiskey tasting like all the grooms attention should be passed on to him. He is, in fact, the belle of the ball, and demands to be treated as such.
5. He Expects Perfection
The Groomzilla usually boasts a unique, warped sense of self-importance to himself  that will now cause him to believe his wedding is more important than the millions of other weddings taking place in this world . Consequently, he demands perfection — from vendors, his groomsmen, his DJ, and beyond.

 

Setting your boyfriend up ........DANGEROUS GAME

 Hi! My name is Lola.
I used my friend to set up my boyfriend to see if he'll cheat on me.
only gave Cassy his Blackberry PIN,
Now they've sent me a wedding IV. What am I ?

Any criticism you make will eventually be made against you. If you want to criticize others, be prepared to for them to scrutinize you. Judgement has a negative effect. The more you judge people the more you will be judged. You haven’t lived their life’s.
Be grateful, not arrogant for any abilities you may have that are better than someone else’s. A beautiful person becomes ugly when they put down those who are not like them. There is no one in this world who is not beautiful.

Lola does not believe or have faith in her boyfriend now she has been stepped upon , be wise these things happens everyday, don't be a victim.

Your Attitude is everything see how a 75-yr-old impregnates 13-yr old girl.

Your Attitude is Your Window to the World,

You're A Human Magnet; Make a Commitment and You'll Move Mountains,

Turn Your Problems into Opportunities; Your Words Blaze A Trail;

Stop Complaining; Associate with Positive People; Confront Your Fears and Grow.

 

I vow to thee, my country, all earthly things above,

Entire and whole and perfect, the service of my love;

The love that asks no question, the love that stands the test,

That lays upon the altar the dearest and the best;

The love that never falters, the love that pays the price,

The love that makes undaunted the final sacrifice.

 CAN I SAY THIS OF MY COUNTRY? A country where a 75-yr-old impregnates a 13-yr old girl in Oyo and  says he's ready to marry her.

75 year old Pa Muse Alabi is now at the State Criminal Investigation Department of the Oyo State Police Command, for defilement of a 13-year-old girl allegedly committed by the old man, and which has resulted in pregnancy.

 It was said  that Pa Alabi was doing carpentry work for a lady that the victim was working for. The young girl seized the opportunity to tell Pa Alabi to build a safe for her. After giving her the safe, Pa Alabi now wooed the girl and she agreed to his proposal. After the first sexual intercourse they had he gave her N200. When she also demanded for a handset, he now gave her another N1,500 to buy i-tel phone.

Four days after, they made love again. Both times were in September this year. Pa Alabi admitted having sex with the girl and the paternity of the baby. He also agreed to marry her and take care of her and the baby when born. According to the man who lives at his family house at Oje area,

“I am a carpenter and I still work till the present time. I even take roofing jobs. I am very strong.I have two daughters and a son. My first wife gave birth to the female children but had to be taken away by her people when she developed mental illness. My second wife is the mother of the boy who is an SSS3 student but she has left for another man. Currently, I have no wife.” 

 So how does he satisfy his sexual needs when it looks as if he is very active?

“I don’t go looking for any woman. I usually have sex with any of the married women who like me and come to me for sex. This is not always though.”

 Speaking on how he came in contact with his victim, the elderly man said

: “I used to do carpentry work for her boss who sells tailoring materials. That was where I knew her. One day, she asked me to help her build a safe in which she could be keeping her money. When I finished it, I asked her to come to my shop for the safe late one evening and I gave it to her.
“She used to pass by my shop whenever she was going home and used to stop by to greet me. On a particular day, I expressed my interest in her and she promised to think about it.She later consented and on one of the days she stopped to say hello to me, we had sex when I had an urge. And it was mutual. About five days after the first time, we had sex again and she stopped coming.

“One day, she came to me and told me that her grandmother said she was pregnant. She stopped coming again and I didn’t see her again until policemen came to arrest me.”

When asked whether he knew that his action was in contravention of the law, Pa Muse replied that he didn’t know, describing the outcome of his relationship with the young girl as “an act of God”. He said:

 “Mistake has no master. I pray that God should forgive me.”

The suspect said he doesn’t use any sex performance enhancement drug before making love to a female

 “I don’t take any herbal drink for enhancement of sexual performance. They are alcoholic and I don’t take alcohol as a good Muslim. I observe my five-times-daily prayers faithfully.”

Pa Alabi said he was ready to take responsibility over the pregnant girl and the baby she is expecting.

 “I can take care of her adequately. I have a nephew who is a medical doctor and he has promised to help too,” he stated.

Your Attitude is Your Window to the World, i do not subscribe to Pa Alabi's ideology and the girl whom i don't see as victim has a long throat and wayward. parents should watch the kind of company their children keep and curtail their life style.

The Police Public Relations Officer, Olabisi Okuwobi-Ilobanafor however said that the suspect would be charged to court.