You Would Rather Hang With Friends
You love your group of friends and see them as much as possible. If you
don't feel the need to change the way you interact socially with other
people, a significant other might complicate things. Consider this, the
time you spend with your friends will now be split among your new
partner, and his/her friends. You might only see your buds a 1/3 of the
time you did before. Are you ready for that?
It's All About You
Sometimes the best thing for your future relationship is that present
day you focuses on itself. Sure, you may be out of college, but are you
actually in the "real world" yet? Are you happy with your life, or are
you hoping a relationship will fix that for you? If so, you're not
ready. Be fair to your next bf and only put yourself out there when you
know you're ready.
Career First
Whether you're in college or just out of grad school, it's paramount
that you keep focus on your goals and ambitions. If you're not where you
want to be yet, or at the very least on that path, you're not your best
you. Obviously, success is relative, but you'll know what's right for
you.
Playing The Field
Has it ever occurred to you that perhaps you're not ready to pick just
one? This is a completely fair, and all to often never asked question.
But if you're not ready to settle down, take this time to date around
and figure out what it is you are looking for.
Move Around As You Please
One of the less hyped benefits of single life is the ability to move
around whenever you like. Whether you're looking to relocate
apartments, or states, this is all 100% up to you. If your job takes you
somewhere else, you can pick up and go without hesitation. This is
something you'll appreciate later on in life.
Keep Your Routine
If you're accustomed to doing things a certain way, you'll probably want
to continue that trend. From what side of the bed you sleep on, to the
time you have dinner at, these are all things that are seemingly
unimportant, but still relevant to how you live your life. Unless you're
ready to make some big compromises, a relationship is not for you.
Love Hurts
Lets be honest, for every happy couple in love, there are two people
elsewhere miserably heartbroken. But that's how love works, it's high
risk, high reward. We're not saying it's not worth the reward, simply
that you should be prepared for the risk as well. It's not all rainbows
and kisses.
Save Money First
Being in love is expensive. Not only are you obliged to do "stuff", but
it's harder to do the things you normally do to save a few bucks. Do you
really want to have your bf over for a ramen date? How many times can
you woo him with your famous generic sauce pasta? Surely you wont just
expect him to pick up the bill, at least you shouldn't. Use these
formative years as an opportunity to save up for whatever you do later
on in life.
What About Some "me" Time?
From bubble baths, to pigging out on pizza while watching Golden Girls
in bed, we all have our sacred rituals we can only enjoy alone. Consider
this, when you finally settle down with Mr./Mrs. Right, your alone time
will slowly decrease, culminating in the eventual replacement by family
time. Enjoy it while it lasts.
It's Just Not For You
Finally, you may just wake up one day and realize that no matter how
much you've been told differently, relationships are not for everyone,
and certainly not for you. Maybe our role as human beings is evolving.
With the world's over population, is it really so bad if not everyone
procreates? Maybe single life is simply a new form of commitment.
Perhaps in this brave new world, one can commit to happiness, self-love,
and independence, without the fear of judgement.
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