Saturday 14 March 2020

Silent treatment: I lost me

I miss myself here, but some how I find away to crawl in and maybe I will crawl back into my shell.... hmmm not anytime soon fellas.

Permit me to talk a little about myself today. It's simply feels like HELL when you like someone and that someone don't seem to like you back. That soul wreching moment begins from that particular second blanks your mind & drags you to the ultimate hole of depression. Every single day ; you feel the loss of that personality.

Wait a minute, is it rude to ignore someone? Naa I don't think so. Regardless, ignoring someone is about being the better person. When you ignore someone that does NOT mean you taunt them, make mean faces, or talk behind their backs. ... What's rude is pretending to like the person and then bad-mouthing them. That is not ignoring them, that is being unmannerly and very immature.

When someone ignores you, they might not realize the damage it causes ― or they do and they think it'll make you better. Or maybe they need space but don't bother to tell you that. They could just be avoiding a confrontation, and not realize they've gone about it the wrong way.
Well if you are in my shoes, I think you should follow these rules:

Be the type of woman he would actually miss. Be pleasant to your man, and he'll miss you. ...
Give Him Some Space. He needs time away to miss you. ...
Stop Trying to Make Him Miss You. Stop trying so hard to make him miss you. ...
Move Slower Than He Wants. ...
Leave a Little Mystery in the Conversation.

Men are babies and some of them act like one, so the best is treat them like our babies too.

So what do you say when this ghost who ignored you suddenly appears? You say:

Thanks, but no thanks. You don't owe a ghost an explanation if you're over it and ready to move on, so don't be afraid to go the blunt route. ...
Ghost them back. Hey, if you want, you can return like for like and take the say nothing approach. ...
Call them out, sure when you feel even, you will be fine afterwards!
Even though I thought I will be speaking to ladies today, I kinda think men too wanna take a leave.
Well for my ladies you've got to:

Make him wait a little bit before you reply to his texts. ...
Make sure that you're smart enough to make yourself memorable. ...
Be a darling to his closest friends. ...
Exude self-love and confidence at all times. ...
Choose your battles wisely. ...
Put in as much effort into the relationship as he is. ...
Don't try being anyone you're not.
I have a friend whose name is Jane. She asked,
What does it mean for a guy you like and he knows you like him to ignore you?
Then I said, dear Jane, this is actually a really good reason to ignore you! It means he's reflecting on the potential of a relationship with you, which is probably what you want, right? Give him his space to figure things out. When he's ready, he'll come back and/or be willing to talk about where things are headed.

To be continued...

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Great thoughts. Ride on, sage.

Ririeye said...
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Anonymous said...

Great insight Rii, missed you here. Thank goodness I subscribed ��

Funke Gione said...

Next should be tonight plssssssssssssss