Friday 20 March 2020

Did I disappoint you or let you down?




Why do most women think with their heart and not their head?

It may sound like an obtuse question -- after all, thinking implies that you're using your brain -- but some people think that their true selves lie in their hearts rather than their their heads. They make decisions and behave based on how they're feeling rather than what may be rational.

Meet the heart people ⏩⏩Women!

Little wonder we have very few female president. You’re always popping up in my head, confused me that I find it difficult to think straight or attend to my personal needs. You appear In head and especially places that you’ve never been..... In my midnight dreams. In my poems and writing. In casual conversations. In my unspoken words.

You’re always popping in and out of my life. You changed my goals. Always so eager to show up when it’s not expected. You always CARED and provided for me. Always ready to mess with my heart. But now I think it’s over. Finally. The pulling and the pushing and the pulling some more — is over.


A breath of fresh air, I can breathe now. For a while on our last sea ride I couldn't hold my breath, Only an inhaler could revive but you found a way to stabilise my mind. I couldn’t comprehend that we had an ending. Because if it’s true love, it always finds a way to live, right? And if it were meant to be, it would be, but hey, it was mere fantasy.

The intellectual seasons/decades we had was special. What we had was something that I will never forget. But what we had is long gone. What we had is done. I don’t know why it took me so long for that to latch onto my heart. I don’t know why it took me so long to accept that fate isn’t in the stars for us. Fate isn’t on our side. Maybe it never was. It really never was.

Maybe I had to take so much time thinking and redressing for it to really hit me. Maybe I had to take so much time writing about you, to get you out of my system. To get the idea of you and me out of my head and my brain and my fingers.

Maybe I had to cry my eyes out for you, for so long, in order to finally get to this stage. This stage of acceptance. This stage of now knowing, that it’s done. And truthfully, it’s been over for so long. You knew it. I tried to not believe it. But I believe it now.

Lesson: Try as much as possible to reason with your head and not your heart.

'Cause I saw the end before we'd begun. I am a dreamer but when I wake. You can't break my spirit - it's my dreams…

2 comments:

Yetunde said...

This is so me

Ariel James said...

Ever thought of picking a newspaper column? Suffice to say you are good writer.