SHOULD I DISCLOSE MY HIV/AIDS STATUS TO MY PARTNER ?

     AIDS is no longer perceived by the general public as a "crisis," and this is because everybody is now aware of the virus. As people live longer with this disease, the focus is on improving quality of life.
A loving, passionate, emotionally and physically satisfying sex life is not something that can be denied to us. It is a fundamental basis of our human nature, yes you can smile.  Many +/+ couples and even some +/- couples have chosen to practice unprotected sex within the context of a monogamous relationship, this is a big risk though.
This is a very personal choice for them, and comes from doing their own assessment of risk. For two HIV-positive people to have unprotected sex together, obviously the risk of transmitting HIV is not an issue, so the worry here would be more related to transmission of other STDs or "reinfection."

Whether or not a couple practices safer sex is not the issue at hand. What is most relevant, is that they have established a line of communication regarding HIV. The fact that they have disclosed their status to each other before engaging in sex, and educated themselves about their options, is what is most important.
Some people find it difficult to disclose their status to their partner and may also decide not to have sex with his/ her partner to avoid contact , shall we call it love or fear .
Some may even discriminate against you because of it. Discrimination within one's family or friends can really hurt. Discrimination at work can hurt, too, but it is also illegal.

 Sometimes it's easiest to first disclose to someone you know that already has it, like a friend or family member living with HIV or members of support group or someone who has disclosed another serious illness , that way your mind will be at rest that you are not alone in it.
Or if you don't know anyone living with HIV, or don't have access to a support group, calling an HIV hotline and telling an operator you have HIV can break the ice. They are used to these kinds of calls. I am sure they won't judge you; they will understand. They might even be willing to work with you, or just by listening, to help you find the language and courage to tell others

Remember, you don't have to tell everybody, only those who you trust and want or need to tell. Give yourself time to determine who these people are and how you want to tell them.

Not hiding your HIV status from doctors or other healthcare providers can help ensure that you get the most appropriate care, too. Disclosure can also reduce the risk of HIV transmission to others, and it can lead to better, healthier sexual relationships.
     Because of this HIV/AIDS saga some people have chosen to avoid the whole dating thing all together. Some are using Internet chat rooms, support groups, and dating sites 2go and co to meet others like themselves. This is one way to avoid the stress of disclosure and helps build a strong community of people who understand. But keep in mind, it is important in any situation to never assume someone's HIV status. Always talk about it before you have unprotected sex. In addition, don't expect that just because someone is also HIV positive that they will want to have unprotected sex with you.