Niran said so many sweet things about Olivia. He told me Olivia was the oldest woman in his life aside his mother. They are childhood friends which later grew to love. Niran is 6 years older than Olivia. I am 3 years older than her too.
According to Niran, he watched her grow from a girl to a woman but were later separated when he had to travel to Cairo. It was so obvious hes loved Olivia so much because whenever we chat or call, he must surely mention her name.
We exchanged pictures, Niran is just too handsome and that attracted me to him more. I started having feelings for him. I so much hoped to be the lucky woman in his life. Despite his olivia this and Olivia that talk, I didn’t let that push me away from him because naturally he was a good guy , I loved him and I believed he loves me too.
I got addicted to his calls and chat. When Niran was ready to settle down, he proposed to olivia through the phone but she turned him down. Niran was so down. During our chat he told me that olivia turned down his proposal reason because she wasn’t ready for marriage. He explained to me that she was the ambitious type. She was too hardworking and she is bent on being successful. Niran as at that time was just an hustler without a job in Cairo.
He said Olivia was worried that they don’t have the money yet to settle down and they need to work more. I did my best to console him. He tried to get a job but things were so difficult over there and he refused yielding to my advise to come back to Nigeria. He waited for het till he got tired of waiting because he wasn’t getting any younger. Olivia was busy with her career pursuit while I was waiting for Niran to start something with me. Olivia wasn’t ready, I was ready.
Niran and I started a relationship. I was so happy that I had a boyfriend even though in my heart he was already a boyfriend unknown to him. Niran and I went straight to the point. We didn’t beat round the bush. Please note here that he was still chatting and calling Olivia. I know because he does tell me but I act not to be jealous because he hates jealousy. We talked about marriage but he was financially handicapped.
Niran was in Cairo and I in Nigeria, if there was going to be any marriage, he will have to come to Nigeria which the money for all that wasn’t available. So I saved up and even borrowed money from my corporative, I bought him flight ticket to Nigeria. Before then, I had told my parents and siblings that my fiancĂ© was coming to Nigeria. When Niran came to Nigeria, he stayed at his friends house since he had no family house in lagos. He visited my parents and he also visited Olivia at her parents house too. Since he was around, my mom brought the idea of Niran and I having an introduction/engagement ceremony before he returns back to Cairo.
I discussed it with Niran, he didn’t say No. So my family sponsored 90% of it all. Niran's friends handled the rest 10%, remember he was broke then. It was just a manageable small parlor celebration and we went to the registry to seal it up. Some of his family came around but not all. All this while we were planning, he didn’t inform Olivia. I told him to inform her but he refused. So I kept mute about it and waved it off. After ceremony, I was supposed to move to my husband's house but there was no house so I remained in my fathers house.
I didn’t want to be called iyawo naija so I begged my mom to give me money to process a visa to go to Cairo with him. She reasoned with me. I got myself a visa and ticket, went with Niran to Cairo. Still he didn’t inform Olivia. Even after the marriage, he was still chatting, calling and exchanging pictures with her. I couldn’t do anything. I was powerless because he already told me before getting married time without number that Olivia was his life and that after his mother, it’s her. I felt guilty that he told me then, I didn’t do anything about it so why now. I thought after getting married, things will change.
I quickly rushed having children believing having a family will distract him from Olivia and will make him love me more but till now It is not so. I quickly made new friends who happens to be Niran's friends in Cairo. I Attend church programs regular and was regarded as Mrs… among his female friends. Years passed, my husband no job but kept on doing petty business to survive. I on the other hand couldn’t work because I had no legal permit to work in Cairo. My visa got expired and he couldn’t renew it. My kids and I got stranded.
We could not travel out of Cairo. No money for all that. We kept on managing. After a while, I noticed my husband no longer chats with Olivia his chats reduced. I found out from him what happened, he told me Olivia found out he got married. He didn’t tell her but his friend did. Olivia stopped talking to my husband. He apologized but she wouldn’t listen. That was when I started snooping. I was happy that at last I was getting my husband back. I snooped virtually everyday to know what was happening in their lives and I would pretend to be so sorry for him because he couldn’t sleep or eat.
Reading the part where he tells her that she was the mother of his kids and his only love… aches me most but I pretended all was well. When olivia found out of our marriage together, I was pregnant for my first child. For months my husband and olivia never communicated.
Those months I enjoyed him, there was no distraction, No mid night call or chats etc. I got his full attention. Those moments were fun. After the delivery of my first child even though we had no money for celebration because all went on hospital expenses but I was still glad I had a family of my own.
Some months after the delivery of my first child, my husband Niran came home one day to tell me that Olivia put to birth a baby boy. I was surprised and then happy at the same time that she had moved on with her life. He didn’t look happy and I never bothered asking. I started snooping again to get the full gist. I found out in their chat that Olivia had her boy out of wedlock. I saw munched chats of some persons.
She gave out her virginity and got pregnant. She was in big distress and my husband couldn’t leave her alone in time of her problem. The father of Olivia’s child was abusive and never catered for his son. The little money Niran had, he sends to her to cater for her boy. Niran and Olivia started talking again, this time stronger than before. I kept on snooping and pretending all was well even with the heart ache I get after reading their chats.
So many things are happening now and I fear things might fall apart in my marriage which I don’t want. He calls and chats her 24/7 even mid nights. Sometimes I leave him in the living room chatting with Olivia . He communicates with her parents almost everyday. Its either he calls or they call to say hello. Whenever him and Olivia have misunderstanding and not in talking terms, he will be so moody. He wont eat or sleep so I would know something is wrong again between him and her. Even his friends are not left out. His friends regards Olivia as his woman even at her after 1 state. Most times when I snoop, I will cry and cry and pretend to be strong.
I did all this for 5 years and I am afraid it will continue like this if I must remain married to him and I don’t want a broken home or my children separated from their father. I have never for once ask him questions about olivia. Whenever he tells me sweet things at our private moment, I am always tempted to ask how true he is to me but I cant. I once read the part where he told her that the only two women in his life is myself and her. How could he be loving me and at the same time love her?
Is it possible? I cant ask him all these questions. He hates jealousy and most importantly, I am not the nagging type. I hate nagging and arguments. So whenever he is calling, chatting and smiling or laughing with her, I strictly mind my business or play along. I have been minding my business for 5 years! Olivia is now successful. Her hard work has finally paid her. She gave him money to process my legal permit documents and that of the kids meaning we can now travel to Nigeria.
He that couldn’t travel to Nigeria because of no money now travels to Nigeria once in 2 months. He calls it business trips. Olivia got herself a luxury apartment which he is aware of. As a matter of fact, his friend in lagos assisted her in purchasing the flat. I saw all that in the chat. Whenever he is preparing to go to Nigeria, he usually give me money to buy Olivia’s son cloths, shoes and toys while he buys her cloth himself except for some that he feels he might not get her size, he will ask me to buy especially her under wears. Whenever he is coming back to Cairo, she goes to the market to buy my kids provisions and buy me Nigeria food stuff. Hmmm its stupid but what can I do?
Niran and olivia lives together whenever he is in Nigeria. I am aware, he tells me before leaving. When he arrives at lagos airport, he calls me using olivia’s phone. Sometimes, I pretend to say let me say hello to her but he wont give her the phone and I would pretend to say greet her for me. During his stay in Nigeria, I try as much as I can to take my mind away from what could be happening with him and her especially at nights. I don’t want to die of HBP. My children are still young.
Just last week, I caught him video chatting while having his bath. He quickly turned it off but I did as if I wasn’t bothered. After all they live together in Nigeria so he cant tell me he never had sex with her even he never discussed it and I never bothered to ask. After that incident, I snooped and found out that him and olivia had been exchanging nude pictures and shower videos. Even he told her that he was missing her boobs and lips. He calls her so many sweet names. So many sweet messages, romantic pictures together that anyone will mistake them for a couple. What baffles me most is, he tells me they are just best friends. Is that true?
This whole thing is now extending to his relative and friends. His friends in Nigeria considers olivia as his woman. She now visit his parents and relation in his home town. She gives them money. I found out that some of his friends got jobs in different company through olivia’s connection. He told me that himself and I pretended to be happy and not to be jealous. My marriage is shaking. Does he really love me or he loves me but I love him more? I am a beautiful woman, I am not the dirty type.
I am obedient and very submissive. Should I just keep pretending and acting to be happy? Is it possible for a man to love 2 women as he claims to love just olivia and myself? He has said that so many time before we got married even till now. After marriage and having 3 children, I thought he will break up with her and accept destiny as it is but such never happened instead he keeps telling her in his chat that she is his forever and no one can stop it not even I his wife because he told me before we got married that they are inseparable.
She calls my children her children and he is ok with it. She even pleads on their behalf sometimes. Please I am not yet dead. I am still alive, why should he feel comfortable with Olivia calling my children hers. Its obvious he adopted Olivia’s son as his. He had played a father role to the boy even till now.
Why should he? He is not his biological father and I have seen the boy father’s picture on his phone before. Sometimes when Niran my husband is in the living room with our children, he video call Olivia and he will call my children to say hello to mummy and she respond and even her son says hello to my children. My children now ask me of Olivia’s son. They tell me to switch on my phone video that they want to talk to her son through the video, I will just smile and tell them to go to their father.
Sometimes I want to see Olivia as his side chick but I am afraid this is becoming more than a side chick. I am beginning to feel soon she will be his first wife and if I don’t act fast, he will marry Olivia . I have prayed and fasted. Should I tell my mom, sisters or church pastor? please note that Niran and I barely fight. We don’t keep malice. He doesn’t smoke, drink alcohol or womanize. I believe Olivia is the only woman he has ever cheat on me with and I can prove it. He does not stay out late or sleep outside except if he isn’t in Cairo. We both go out with the children on a date. He is a loving husband and father with a good heart.
My only problem with him is olivia and Olivia only. I fear the moment I begin to react to him attitude towards olivia, my home will be shattered and I will loose him completely. I love my husband dearly and I don’t want to ever loose him. Please what do I do? I need your advise urgently as its beginning to weigh me down. I am so sorry for my long epistle, I want you to understand my ordeal.
